Month: March 2015

I Let My Boyfriend Stop Me From Wearing A Crop Top

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PHOTOGRAPHY BY JU’WAN ANDREWS

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[PANTS:LANE BRYANT | L.A NETTED JERSEY:FROM A FRIEND | WEDGES:ASOS]

This conversation was with my boyfriend while getting dressed to take pictures:

Me: Should I wear this crop top or a ribbed tank?

Boyfriend: Wear the tank.

Me: What makes you say that?

BF: I don’t know? Wear what you want.

Me: So what you’re saying is you don’t think I look good in this crop top?

BF: I didn’t say that.

Me: Then how can you tell me to wear something you haven’t seen me in yet?

BF: Wear the crop top!

We went back and forth with this conversation for awhile. In the end, I let his answer stop me from wearing it. Or did I let my insecurity keep me from wearing it?

He never once said not to wear the crop top, he just suggested wearing the tank top. I will never know why he told me to wear the tank top without seeing how it looked first. He probably doesn’t know why he said it either. Maybe he doesn’t ┬áthink crop tops ook good on me but that’s not for me to figure out.

I know he loves me, my mind, my soul, my body, and my style. He encourages me to express myself and wear what I want. He is my biggest fan, and I love him for that. I don’t need him to validate what I am wearing to feel confident in it though.

What I need to figure out, is why I let his comment stop me from wearing the damn crop top when I thought I looked good in it? Maybe I really didn’t think so? Who knows, maybe I was having a moment of insecurity, and his response was an excuse to confirm it?

Although I am very choosy how I style crop tops; I still wear them. Whether it’s with shapewear, the perfect fitting pair of high waisted jeans or a loose fitting duster, kimono, or sweater.

It doesn’t matter how or what you wear to make yourself feel good in your clothing. The important thing is that you are comfortable and confident in it no matter what anyone says.

Have you ever allowed someone’s opinion to stop you from doing or wearing something you wanted? I would love to hear your thoughts/experience.

Xo
Serena

FEAR NOT

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PHOTOGRAPHY BY JU’WAN ANDREWS

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[WHITE DENIM PANTS:ASOS CURVE (SIMILAR) | LEOPARD FLATS:DSW | DENIM BUTTON-UP:FRENCH CONNECTION | NUDE UNDERSHIRT:NORDSTROMS]

What are you scared of? This was a question asked by Christina, of ProFresh Style awhile back (like a long while) in her VULNERABILITY PT 2: FAUX REGRETS post.

I fear failure, being stagnant, not taking enough risks (the exact opposite of Christina), having children, and or waiting too long to have them. I fear failure of marriage (when it happens) and starting a family without having the career I want.

I am terrified to fly but even more so of not flying before I turn 30 (it’s true, a 20 something-year-old in the 21st century has never flown). I fear the day I lose one of my parents, especially before major events in my life happen i.e. landing that dream job, having kids, getting married, etcetera!

I refuse to let my fears dictate my life any longer or prevent me from doing what I dream of.

I decided to buy tickets to the Curvy Con in New York, this June. I’m not going to lie; I’m freaking out a little bit, but it’s a good type of freaking! Are you going?

I’ll end this by asking you the same question as Christina, what are you scared of? Do you let it prevent you from pursuing your dreams?

Xo
Serena

ALL ABOUT THE ACCESSORIES, BABY!

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[DRESS:ASOS CURVE | WHITE CROC BLAZER:SIMPLY BE | WEDGES:F21]

Accessories are everything- they can add uniqueness to an otherwise average look. I love hunting for rare jewelry that will stand out and is unique to my personal style. The best places to find pieces like this are thrift stores, flea markets, estate sales, and or your mother’s jewelry box.

Right now, I am all about door knocker earrings, gold dainty lariat necklaces, pointer finger and turquoise rings, and of course leopard anything.

Spring is around the corner. I don’t know about you guys, but I am more than ready.

Are you planning your spring/summer wardrobe yet?

XO
SERENA